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July 7, 2005 16:36 - Christian Teen Dating

Before I comment on christian teen dating let's see what is dating. According to, dating is defined as an engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest. I know you must be asking when is the right teen age to start dating. What's the real purpose of dating as a christian?

We might have a heart that is saved by the blood of Jesus but our thinking could well be just like the rest of world, if not Paul would not tell us in Romans 12:2, And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

I believe most teenagers do not have the right level of emotional stability and maturity to handle the issues of romance. The truth is, most adults are also not completely equipped with the level of skills required of a relationship as can be seen from the amount of anti-depressants that have been dispensed and the amount of money divorce lawyers are raking in from failed marriages.

There is obviously no right or wrong age to date or marry but I believe most people including teenagers are entering into relationships for the wrong reasons, they want 'love' but end up equating physically closeness to love.

I was once a teenager myself and I mistook love for many other things other than the love that was defined in the bible. I rationalize a lot and yes I was hurt and have also hurt the other person in the process. So I can really identify with the message the BarlowGirls are teaching in their Christian rock music concernts.

But hey, if you have been hurt before, God waste nothing. Karen is a wonderful example of how God can use anyone regardless of your past for His glory. Subscribe to Christian dating tips today and I'll update you whenever I put up a new posting at my blog.

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July 11, 2005 18:30 - Man made christian dating rules

After God made men on the 5th day, the first thing God said to them was this, Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground. The ONLY time God laid down a rule of MUST NOT is when he commanded man, You are free to eat from any tree in the garden but you are must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, or when you eat of it you will surely die.

Rules are not useless, and they are necessary but when they are imposed upon by man without the Holy Spirit, they only make us go into denials and abstinence. But you and I know exterior regulations in themselves never change the heart. Trying to adhere to christian dating rules without having a relationship or connection with God do not change our carnal nature.

So does it mean you can now live lawlessly and do whatever you want? Date a non christian, ignore all physical boundaries etc. Friends we need to walk with God ever more closely than rules to stifle us. Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh - Galatians 5:16 (Go to URL)

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July 15, 2005 16:14 - Stop Sex Trafficking

Buy a T-Shirt and stop Sex Trafficking!


I know this has nothing to do with dating whatsoever but I urge all you christians out there to lend a helping for this worthy cause. Each year some 18,000 women and children are sold into prostitution, most of them tricked or coerced, locked up and repeatedly beaten and raped to "break" them. Some of them are as young as nine.

Singapore lies in the centre of 12 of the most active "trade centres" for child sex. What's more, Singaporean men form the biggest group of sex tourists in places like Batam and south Thailand, and Singaporeans reportedly have sex with girls as young as 14.*

Women Make A Difference (WMD) International is calling upon women in Singapore and all over the world to make a difference to these girls and women. Fight the battle against sex trafficking on two levels:

• we financially support the shelters that offer housing, food and rehabilitation for the victims

• we make a loud noise against injustices committed right in our backyard by men.

Net proceeds of this T-shirt, which symbolises a united womanhood fighting crimes committed against children and women in this world, will go to the National Committee of UNIFEM, Singapore, which will distribute funding to these shelters that are tending to the victims. The cost of each T-shirt is SG$39.30 or approximately US$23.75.

Their aim is to sell 900 T-shirts between July and end-September. The AVAILABLE SIZES are:

XS (34" bust)
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M (40" bust)
L (42" bust)

Help WMD make a tangible difference to the lives of these children and women. Please spread this message as far and wide as you can. We thank you for being our mouths, arms and legs.

For more information please visit, Women Make A Difference (WMD) International 2005 Website:

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July 21, 2005 10:14 - Christian Dating And Some Four Letter Words

The 2 four letter words I want to talk about today is love and lust. Contrary to what most christian singles believe, the opposite of Love is not Hate but Lust. The majority of the problems I see in most christian singles dating is contributed by lust, our idea of what love is has been given a makeover by the world, we are taught to yield to our flesh. We are told to blame it on our hormones and on the media but I personally think the main culprit is lack of understanding of what love is, the way our Creator intended Love to be. You might understand this truth but is the truth living in your relationship. Or is it a one sided affair a result of dating someone of a different spiritual maturity.

So how does one know what what we are experiencing is love but not lust. Here are some pointers for you to think about:

Love is sacrificial, Lust is selfish.
Love is giving, Lust is taking.
Love is salvation, Lust is sexual.
Love is pain, Lust is pleasure.
Love is controlled, Lust is unrestrained.
Love is about others, Lust is about you.
Love is an act of worship, Lust is idolatry.
Love is the fruit of the Holy Spirit, Lust is the fruit of the flesh.

According to my NIV bible, lust is mentioned 4 times and love about a few hundred times, and the best definition of love can be found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in the evil. But rejoieces with the truth. It always protects, always hopes, always perseveres.

Here are some good articles on Lust can be found here:

Love or Lust

Lust: Christian View

The way we gratify our lust or flesh is through sex or pornography or masturbation, instead of using our body the way God meant it to be, we abuse it. You might be dating a christian today but what's his/her idea of acceptable sex standards?

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