Do you liken marriage success to be a kind
of slot machine, guaranteed to pay off. You put in little yourself
and have a lot of fun making the wheels go around. In return you
expect the jack pot of happiness, spilled out right at your feet.
If you want to succeed in marriage, recognize first
of all that it is not a means of solving problems. Marrying is like
accepting a promotion. It means more pay, but it means also more
responsibility and bigger and better headaches.
Marriage in itself will not make anyone happy. It
merely gives you a better chance to earn it. The happiness of
marriage is like a car, or a refrigerator, or something else you
would like, in a show window. If you want to have it in your own
home, you must be willing to pay the price; not only willing, but
Here are some of the keys to marriage
Will you put up with inconvenience? Dealing with
Do you know that success in marriage requires serious
effort and marriage skills?
Are you emotionally able to accept competent help when
you need it such as Christian marriage counseling?
Do you have the will to succeed? Do you have the case
Success in marriage involves far more than merely
staying together. It means the working out of a relationship which
is increasingly satisfying and worthful to all concerned. Many
couples have clung together long after their marriages have lost
their purposes, just because they wanted to show others that they
Others have remained together because of social
pressure, religious demands, or just because of their pride. I do
not say that they are wrong in so doing. I am saying that
marriages which can be held together only by such reasons are a
waste of life.
Life in terms of the development of a rich
relationship will best result as the outgrowth of larger purposes
around which the whole life is organized. Historically, for
centuries in the past there was no divorce in Rome. Why? Because the
family did not exist for the satisfaction of the individual.
Its purpose was to provide disciplined citizens for
the state; citizens who would be its soldiers or the mothers of
soldiers. The marriage of many couples today is the joining together
in some common cause to which both are dedicated.
The cause may be foreign missions. It may be world
peace. It may be what is the essence of religion at its best; the
dedication of self to the creative forces of life. But whatever it
is, when this larger purpose is present, the couple has a
basis for marriage success. Do you have a large purpose in life?
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