Christian Dating Advice

First it was Sex Education then it went on to signatures on Sexual-Abstinence Commitment Cards. The latest trend today are purity rings or chastity rings. According to the many reports I read on Statistics on Abstinence, Teenage Oral Sex, and Sex Lives of Christian Teens and the many teenagers I have counseled and am counseling today, I know purity rings are not going to work, you can wear 10 of them on all your fingers and it still would not work. The only people benefiting from the rings are the ring peddlers.

I am not against the rings, or even merchants selling those rings, but it seems like people who practices no sex before marriage end up engaging in many other types of physical intimacy such as anal sex, oral sex, heavy petting, just plain fornication. Afterall there is no vaginal penetration and according to my dictionary it does mean I have lost my virginity!

Sure abstinence from sex prevents pre-marital pregnancy, AIDS, other forms of sexually transmitted diseases and many other benefits, but what is the spirit behind purity? All the rationalization I am almost hearing from some of you such as this, sex is a physical expression of an emotion and very much a part of a relationship. So long as someone is sure and is willing to take responsibility for his or her own actions and if he feels that he is mature enough to take any consequence, it is his own decision and no one should censure what he choose to do because he is not hurting anyone else.

Wearing a purity ring, is you making a logical decision to preserve your virginity for your marriage, but ask anyone involve in any serious dating relationship today, do they realized how powerful passion can be? And then there is this curiosity factor that kicks in.

Are you struggling in your mind today about sex, is your partner pressuring you to give in to him/her? Are you having doubts in your mind today? Remember in Genesis 3:1, ...Did God really say, You must not eat from any tree in the garden?. The know what happened next.

The only way to stay pure is to do it not just for your marriage but to do it because of Him. And I know no amount of will power, determination and yes even purity ring is going to stop one from going too near to the edge if you do not begin to start by developing a relationship wth the Holy Spirit. The first step, Read and Study the Word of God.

Let's get real and get serious with God starting from this year. Purity Rings is not just a fad, it is just another of the man made "Christian Dating" Rules.